The verdict
If you do not yet have a proper business account, pick Rabobank. It is a safe default in the Netherlands and nobody asks questions about it. If you have an account and your books are late, pick Xero, but only after you check local fit. Look at Dutch VAT handling, bank connections and e-invoicing on your local site before you commit.
Xero makes the most sense when your accountant uses it or recommends it, and when you want to add people without paying per seat. If your accountant prefers a Dutch package, follow them. A local tool may handle tax filing better. I would set up the bank first, then choose the ledger with your accountant, and check that the two connect before you switch anything.